Alcohol Use Disorder is rampant, and the rest of us just drink too much. There is one thing above all else that stands between you and a happy and sober life.
“Reality is just a crutch for people who can’t handle drugs.”
You have had an inkling for some time that something is wrong, haven’t you?
Maybe you wake up and think that you hadn’t meant to drink that much last night…often.
Whether you drink a lot or too much, it is irrefutable that alcohol is the most dangerous and overused drug in the world today.
As uncomfortable as that crown sits, addictions are ruinous and ubiquitous.
As Shirley Smith says in ‘Set Yourself Free’,
“disorders including work addiction, eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, compulsive overeating; gambling, debting or compulsive spending; sex addiction and co-addictive relationships…”
…as well as substance addiction, is very common.
Drug addictions are the ones people become alarmed about, as the effects are more obvious and dangerous.
Denial is the most common symptom of us addicted people.
But there is good news and there is bad news.
So the good news is that most people are sick like us too!
The bad news is that when you’re in denial, YOU alone can’t fix the problem. The paradox is that ultimately only YOU can do it.
When I got to my rock bottom, I would realise that I only had two problems – one was alcoholism, and the other was ‘Everything Else’.
After two and a half years of recovery/relapse cycle, I had a lightbulb moment and haven’t had a drink for ten years.
My experience in fellowship meetings indicates that everybody’s Rock Bottom is different in facts, intensity, and biological time frame. My epiphany at age 45 is very common though (Psychology students will be able to elaborate).
Even before I began drinking I loved David Bowie. The glitter rock and the courageous style changes intrigued and bedazzled me.
“I re-invented my image so many times that I’m in denial that I was originally an overweight Korean woman.”
I think there is a lot of the Aladdin Sane in drug addictions. For me, Bowie was schizophrenic and I felt empathy for the character and the performer.
Denial, therefore, is the block between the performance and the actor moving on. This article is too small a place to discuss all the psychological reasons why I or you or anyone falls into the role we adopted, but the escape from that role is imperative for change to occur.
We all have more power and resilience than we give credit.
We are all capable of change, in fact, change will happen whether you lead it or follow it.
Making the decision to move forward with your life FROM addiction TO Happy, Joyous and Frickin Awesome is my quest.