God – What’s It Really Good For?


This is a  biggy.


For this ‘little black Buddhist’, it is the meaning of life and all else, and will take many lifetimes to fully ‘get’. So let’s look at just getting through today, shall we?


  1. The answer is not in the bottle.  
  2. The problem is not even there.  
  3. The wisdom we are looking for today is this.
  4. I am the problem, the solution and I am everything that is standing in my way to happiness.


There is nothing outside my mind that can make me drink – and right now, as an addict, my drinking is ruining my life.  There is nothing else. My parents are not making me drink. My boss is not the cause of my grief. A new girlfriend won’t make my life better, nor will some jewellery or a Big Mac.


  1. My mind is the problem.
  2. I can change my thinking and feeling.
  3. I will succeed.


How does that all sound to you? Bullshit?  Is it like swallowing razor blades? Do you want to hurt me right now?

I understand – truly, I do.


The bad news is that you are the problem. The good news is that you are the problem.

If the problem is your Mum, or where you work and who you sleep with, then you’re fucked.  You can’t fix anything except you!

‘You are the problem’ is the most freeing thing that you have ever read or heard.

‘You are the problem’ should be written in lipstick on your vanity mirror.

‘You are the problem’ is the first step to realizing your goal of a Happy, Sober & Frickin Awesome lifestyle. You might even get rich beyond financial wealth if you realize that ‘You are the problem’.


This is the wisdom that can set you free today.  You have many lives to work out the rest if you can just believe me on this one thing. ‘You are the problem’

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Eckhart Tolle says…

Eckhart Tolle says in “A New Earth”, You are a human being. What does that mean?

Mastery of life is not a question of control, but of finding a balance between human and Being.”


This is a really interesting point to ponder, and frankly, on your first sober day, I don’t expect too much sense to be made.


But this realization may also tip you into another completely new frame of mind (And remember the only thing wrong with you is YOUR MIND. I used to say in meetings, ‘When I came into recovery I only had two problems – Alcoholism and Everything else)



This idea of Tolle’s leads us to the awareness of God too.

What is BEING, Self, God, Oneness?


I hope you quickly find your own realization in this respect because I am convinced that every person whom I have seen recover from alcoholism and drug addiction has had a revelationary change in their awareness of God. Not a revolutionary change either – we can do without the crusades.

Here’s something that I like to ponder sometimes when I am lost.


There’s me. I am pretty sure in real terms that I am here.

Then there is Heather my girlfriend and other people.  I have children and a family.

There are about 7 billion other humans here on earth. There are lots of insects and animals and fishes.  There are plants. And what else?

There might be nothing. It just seems that most people believe that there is something. What is that? Are we all nuts, deluded, grasping for something where there is only fear?

It is my assertion that human beings in the 21st Century as we know it aren’t equipped with the applicable mental power or information to definitively understand the Esoteric, Ethereal, Spiritual nature of the Cosmos. We can but try.


Throughout my writing, if you care to stay with me there are lots of references to other authors that have made an impression on me.  There are no definitive God-answers here – rather a place where we can question each other and hold each other whilst we think together.


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7 thoughts on “God – What’s It Really Good For?

  1. I realize that we are all just sharing our experience around sobriety and what’s work for us.

    So with that in mind…

    For me personally the ideas expressed in this particular post would have been a little too thick and dense when I was still a problem drinker and trying to get sober. And even reading it now I feel like I’m being accused of something.

    The very concept that I am the problem for someone who is trying to get sober I think it’s a very big problem. I think the idea that “I am the problem “is a higher level of conceptualization that, at least for me, I was unable to actualize into any solution that would prevent me from drinking.

    I think that in general in my life and even threw my alcoholism I’m a very intelligent person and especially in matters of the spirit and religion and things like that because I was interested in that kind of stuff. And so all that kind of spiritual kind of stuff for me just fed in to what I already knew, which ironically was occurring while I was still drinking and even while I was wanting to stop and being unable to stop.

    The problem obviously was not just me. And to say, when I was trying to get sober, to say to me that I am the problem is like calling grass green: my response despite myself was “ so what”.

    It was not sufficient an understanding to know that I am the problem, and like I said, namely because the very idea that you in this post our expressing is a higher level of cognitive processes that I think does not occur with the addicted mind.

    In this respect , The problem definitely was not me: The problem was that I couldn’t stop drinking: The alcohol what is the problem.

    And I’m not sure that anything in at least the AA and 12 step big buck kind of recovery meetings that I went to says anything about that I am the problem. Sure people and meetings will express that in shares, well like I said I’m not sure if it really gets anywhere because I didn’t come to meetings because I had a problem with myself I came to meetings because I had a problem with drinking. I could go to a counselor or priest or go to church if I had a problem with myself to stop drinking; that was the problem with the oxford group at the turn-of-the-20thcentury: They thought they had come upon a cycle logical rationale of religious effectiveness for every problem there was . Very crucial realization that I think AAA puts forth, and indeed recovery in general, is that knowing things about my condition are having certain philosophical concepts about why it may be the case or even with the solution might be does almost nothing to relieve that condition.

    And I understand and other is of your posts you have expressed similar idea around powerlessness.

    But I think a significant part every cubby is to realize that I am not the problem. But in fact it is the very condition of my thinking by which I think that I am the center of all things including the root of the problem that perpetuates be addictive behavior.

    I think that’s why it significant that at least in the AA steps it says I am powerless over alcohol my life become a manageable. It is not only that my life has become unmanageable and that alcohol is one element of this unmanageability ; rather , it is this significant point that I am addicted. And it doesn’t say that I am the problem so much as it says that the alcoholic is the example of self will run riot. It is not just that self-will is being an acted but that indeed self-will is being over enacted. And that we cannot say this about people that we might see out in the world who are not alcoholics are ad acts as if to generalize to a common problem of being human: This may be the case but again that is a higher level of cognitive process.

    I feel the significant issue of addiction is to point to that particular problem, that this must be the case. That this particular case has nothing to do with anyone else and doesn’t even have anything to do with who you are what you are: The realization that the entirety of your being is indeed addicted.

    And that this substance is having power over me; I just need to get in touch with the power that is greater then the substance.

  2. To say that I am the problem is Millie to indicate that somethings wrong with me; to be sober and be free from the compulsion to drink admit that I am not the problem and neither was I ever the problem. Only in those extreme self will self centered moments AmI indeed the problem. Ironically.


    1. G’day
      I tried to understand your disagreement with the article but I found I didn’t quite get what you were objecting about. Sure, folks who are coming off a bender or have been drunk for 10 years don’t want to be told that the problem is them. Until I realised I was the problem though, all I wanted to do was blame others and have someone else fix me. Well, that didn’t eventuate.
      It’s great that we can debate this – but I don’t see your logic and I am pretty adamant that my mind needed repair and no was going to do it for me.
      Love alwaz

      1. Yes. I walk my dogs. And have plenty of time to read blogs and voice dictate thoughts. Often. I’m thinking while I’m talking. So…

        I guess my point is that I couldn’t stay sober long enough to care if I was the problem or not. I knew something was wrong with me: I count stop drinking.

        So it was a relief when some one pointed out that the steps only say ‘I admit’ and then I ‘come to believe there is a power not myself’. And I ‘decide’.

        The rationalizations the aa book give I feel are to this point, that knowledge of my condition didn’t solve my condition. Knowing I was scrwwed up. And knowing perhaps that I am the problem did prevent me from drinking. It was just another interesting fact that actually kept me drinking, Becuase it was me knowing this.

        I suppose for me the significant future of getting sober was the actual act of drinking, and the inability to keep myself from doing that act no matter what I knew or did , or no matter what people told me about my situation.

        So in the end the only thing that anyone ever told me about my situation that had any weight for me was that there was nothing I can do about it. That I had to find a power that was not me.

        But everyone has thier experience around coming to terms with their addiction.

        In my 11 year sober , I see now that I am a totalizer: I weigh things in total. For example: it is not some of me that is an alcoholic, it is all of me. There are not parts of my mind That are not alcoholic. And ironically: I did not have to change everything about my life, I had to give up the idea that my knowledge and understanding of things constitutes the totality of possibility. Half measures avail me nothing; they did not avail me some sobriety because I ended up drinking again. If I drink again there was nothing that I knew about staying sober that would help me the next time because the fact was those things I thought I knew about staying sober ultimately lead me to the next drink again. I had to go to the bitter endend, not to where someone pointed me out that something bad was going to happen, like I was going to go to jail or I might kill somebody or losing my house or my family.

        Things like that. Many people are not totalizers. Most people, it appears, have an easier time of taking things piece by piece. Many people are more able than I am to chop themselves into pieces and then to fix various small things which then overtime contribute to them being happy not drinking or in fact, looking at their drinking as merely a piece in so then they try really hard not to drink and in the meantime work on these other pieces which then ultimately lead them to a happier life when they’re not drinking.

        Those approaches didn’t work for me even though I tried for many years.

        Thanks for your blog. 🌈

      2. …oh but…so. Sure the problem may be me, but it was the alcoholism I had to deal with first, the fact I could not stop drinking. I think that was my point. For me to deal with “me the problem” was to put the cart before the horse. Becuase the way I dealt with Me was drinking: they were inseparable.

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