This is a biggy.
For this ‘little black Buddhist’, it is the meaning of life and all else, and will take many lifetimes to fully ‘get’. So let’s look at just getting through today, shall we?
- The answer is not in the bottle.
- The problem is not even there.
- The wisdom we are looking for today is this.
- I am the problem, the solution and I am everything that is standing in my way to happiness.
There is nothing outside my mind that can make me drink – and right now, as an addict, my drinking is ruining my life. There is nothing else. My parents are not making me drink. My boss is not the cause of my grief. A new girlfriend won’t make my life better, nor will some jewellery or a Big Mac.
- My mind is the problem.
- I can change my thinking and feeling.
- I will succeed.
How does that all sound to you? Bullshit? Is it like swallowing razor blades? Do you want to hurt me right now?
I understand – truly, I do.
The bad news is that you are the problem. The good news is that you are the problem.
If the problem is your Mum, or where you work and who you sleep with, then you’re fucked. You can’t fix anything except you!
‘You are the problem’ is the most freeing thing that you have ever read or heard.
‘You are the problem’ should be written in lipstick on your vanity mirror.
‘You are the problem’ is the first step to realizing your goal of a Happy, Sober & Frickin Awesome lifestyle. You might even get rich beyond financial wealth if you realize that ‘You are the problem’.
This is the wisdom that can set you free today. You have many lives to work out the rest if you can just believe me on this one thing. ‘You are the problem’
Eckhart Tolle says…
Eckhart Tolle says in “A New Earth”, You are a human being. What does that mean?
Mastery of life is not a question of control, but of finding a balance between human and Being.”
This is a really interesting point to ponder, and frankly, on your first sober day, I don’t expect too much sense to be made.
But this realization may also tip you into another completely new frame of mind (And remember the only thing wrong with you is YOUR MIND. I used to say in meetings, ‘When I came into recovery I only had two problems – Alcoholism and Everything else)
This idea of Tolle’s leads us to the awareness of God too.
What is BEING, Self, God, Oneness?
I hope you quickly find your own realization in this respect because I am convinced that every person whom I have seen recover from alcoholism and drug addiction has had a revelationary change in their awareness of God. Not a revolutionary change either – we can do without the crusades.
Here’s something that I like to ponder sometimes when I am lost.
There’s me. I am pretty sure in real terms that I am here.
Then there is Heather my girlfriend and other people. I have children and a family.
There are about 7 billion other humans here on earth. There are lots of insects and animals and fishes. There are plants. And what else?
There might be nothing. It just seems that most people believe that there is something. What is that? Are we all nuts, deluded, grasping for something where there is only fear?
It is my assertion that human beings in the 21st Century as we know it aren’t equipped with the applicable mental power or information to definitively understand the Esoteric, Ethereal, Spiritual nature of the Cosmos. We can but try.
Throughout my writing, if you care to stay with me there are lots of references to other authors that have made an impression on me. There are no definitive God-answers here – rather a place where we can question each other and hold each other whilst we think together.
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