“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.
When I am disturbed,
It is because I find some person, place, thing, situation —
Some fact of my life — unacceptable to me,
And I can find no serenity until I accept
That person, place, thing, or situation
As being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Unless I accept life completely on life’s terms,
I cannot be happy.
I need to concentrate not so much
On what needs to be changed in the world
As on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.” P417 BB
What do I have to accept
Depending on your current age and the developmental stage you are at right now, the acceptance idea will vary. Boys need to become men, just as girls become women. It is said that alcoholics just maintain the maturity of a person the same as when the alcoholic began drinking. If so we are all well behind the eight ball when it comes to accepting life as it is.
When it comes to halting destructive behavior, though, time is of the essence.
If you realize that you are an alcoholic by any measure or means, it’s time to ACCEPT that you are an alcoholic and this means making a decision.
The original members of Alcoholics Anonymous wrote the AA Big Book in the latter years of the 1930’s. The Step 1 of Alcoholics Anonymous declares that we (the recovered alcoholics) “We admitted we were alcoholics – that our lives had become unmanageable.”
Think about that.
After about 3 years of helping each other remain sober, these original members of AA came to this consensus.
Do you disagree strongly with this as it relates to you?
Can you say it out loud?
How would you change this statement to describe your situation better?
I was well and truly beaten down to a miserable reduction of a man when I was brought to AA’s rooms by my then girlfriend who wanted to save my sorry life.
It was another two and a half years before I got and remained sober. Such is the denial of the suffering addict.
Dr. David Hawkins said, “ People die by their thousands because of pride. They literally give up their health and life itself. Addicts and alcoholics will go to their death because of the denial inherent in pride: “Other people have the problem – not me!”
My reckoning is this. I was so broken by my experiences and relationship with the world that my best SOLUTION to my existential problem was drinking. I was dependent on alcohol – the thing that was killing me. It’s a type of Stockholm Syndrome.
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