I am like Shirley Smith. “…When I began steps on my path towards personal freedom, I felt frightened, inadequate, lonely, and trapped. I was sick and tired of pain, confusion, and trying so hard at everything I did. This emotional bottom brought me to a point where I was willing to go to any lengths to experience true happiness, inner peace, and personal freedom.”
Addicts who have not yet discovered their own means of escape sometimes feel unworthy.
We don’t feel that we deserve a better life, and these feelings have deep roots. The ‘Shame’ work researched and presented by John Bradshaw and Brene Brown has been highly significant in my own recovery.
But you deserve to feel free and happy.
THIS, we must understand, believe, and reinforce. We deserve it.
The idea of giving up ‘One Day At A Time’ has been the catch cry of millions. So combining the day at a time principle with uncovering our hidden shame would be a great plan of attack.
Psychologists will be aware of the work of both of the aforementioned authors. Use them. I have a lot of friends in recovery and the underuse of professional ‘psyches’ is alarming.
Another source of great help is getting an AA sponsor and doing the 12 steps with them. Again, I know a lot of people (and have buried even more) who do not want to do what is suggested by the most successful group of addicts in world history.
Thirdly, there are religious leaders of all denominations who have great expertise in the matters of mind and abusive pasts that are invaluable in recovery from all sorts of issues.
The other matter of considerable import is building a new healthy lifestyle to replace the old detrimental one.
Choose to actively give up drinking every day. Renew your sobriety vow to yourself.
- Realise you’re an alcoholic
- Hand your willfulness over to the care of your Higher Power
- Own your mistakes from yesterday, make amends if need be and move on
- Try to help others
If you keep up a routine whereby you are loving yourself into a new healthy lifestyle, you can win. (Physical tips for recovery)
So, let me give you a few examples of things that you could ask yourself first thing in the morning:
- What do I have to look forward to today?
- What’s absolutely perfect about my life?
- How can I make today awesome?
- What’s the best thing that could happen today?
- What’s the next right thing to do?