Addicts Are People Too, You Know?
The other day I received a letter promoting 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently. by Marc and Angel Chernoff. With love and permission from Angel I am summarising their message.
Angel begins, “You know when you’re driving to an unfamiliar place, blasting the radio while simultaneously watching your GPS spit out directions?
Then you suddenly get to that one part of the route that’s ridiculously confusing, so you lower the volume even though it really has no direct impact on the way you read the directions?”
Hahaha. Why do we do that?
She continues — That is your life. That radio noise you need to cut out to concentrate? That’s the needless, energy-sucking noise in your head.
Oh MY GOD!
That makes so much sense!
Turning down the radio in the car re-energises your mind and offers you clarity when you need it most. You don’t really think about how or why this makes such a huge difference, you just know that it does.
6 Habits to Eliminate — Reducing The Noise
- Pretending like everything is OK when it isn’t.
Do you feel like giving up? There’s honestly no shame in it. There’s no shame in admitting to yourself that you feel exhausted, doubtful, and low.
This is a natural part of being human.
You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either — cry if you need to — it’s healthy to shed your tears.
The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
2. Letting pain from the past devastate the present.
I am stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness.
The same is true for you.
Every trying situation contains an opportunity for deeper self-reflection and learning.
Every irritant, heartbreak, frustration, disappointment, fearful moment and sadness is a teacher.
Remember, nothing is as bad as it seems. Nothing. There’s a benefit and a blessing hidden in the folds of every experience and every outcome. So don’t you dare give up on today because of the way things looked yesterday.
Every day is a new day to try again.
3. Resisting change and growth.
You must consistently check with yourself and ask: “Am I committed to feeling good, or am I committed to growing?”
Because growth does not always feel good, and feeling good does not always provide growth.
All growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. When you’re feeling uncomfortable, know that the change taking place in your life is a beginning, not an ending.
4. Worrying and worrying and worrying and never taking action.
Worry is the biggest enemy of the present moment. It does nothing but steal your joy and keep you very busy doing absolutely nothing at all.
Don’t waste your effort avoiding effort. Go ahead and get it done.
Today, ask yourself what is really important and then have the courage to build your day around your answer.
5. Sacrificing all of your Self for everyone else.
Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you do, there will be very little left that you can give to anyone, even those you love dearly.
Whenever you feel trapped and it’s difficult to breathe, let me remind you — don’t forget to secure your own oxygen mask first.
It’s all about falling in love with yourself first and sharing that love with others who appreciate you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.
6. Taking everything personally.
There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.
When it seems personal, it probably isn’t. Remember this.
Hurt people hurt people. If you’ve been offended intentionally or accidentally it’s usually because the offender is in some sort of emotional pain.
And it’s your choice to be offended, after all!
Angel finishes her letter with, “We are all in this together. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and keep our lives on track. This is precisely why Marc and I wrote our book, “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.”